As we grow older, we learn more about life, we learn how to interact, how to live our life the best we can.

Along the way we read books which really help us to know more, we talk to our parents, elders. But there are still many questions that we ask ourselves every day ,questions that are unique to ourselves or are universal , we know that they may be something that all of us ask ourselves. 

So I felt the need to discuss them with you.. How about I asking you a question and you replying in the comment section. When there are different views and different perspectives we can look at things with a broader outlook. But I will only if you friends are ready to discuss it..

As I always have this question, “If you are the type who always adjusts to a certain situation, to make it easier for the people around you and also for yourself .. , do you feel that doing so is good in the long run or will it make people around you take you for granted”.

Or does standing up for yourself and not adjusting make life more difficult for you.


It so happens that when you first learn to cook , we tend to stick to recipes and tend the stick to what is supposed to be done or things that go well with each other but as years go by we learn to experiments some turn out well some do not, but those which do not we have experience enough to make them edible and tasty.

I love experimenting with Parathas a Indian flat bread as its a complete meal you can incorporate vegetables and flours as per you choice and taste.


Methi Paratha

1 big bunch of methi leaves cleaned washed and finely chopped.
1 cup of wheat flour

1/2 cup chickpea flour or besan

1/2 cup rice flour

1/4 cup jowar flour or any other flour of your choice
1 tsp sugar
2 tsp chili powder
1 tsp haldi powder
1 tsp garam masala powder
1 tsp each of ginger and garlic paste
2 tbsp sour curds
You can put 1 tsp lemon juice or amchur powder
1 tbsp oil or butter warm
Salt to taste


A very simple way of making quick parathas
Just mix all the above ingredients together and make into a dough ball
Rest for about 1 hour
Roll out into parathas
Fry with a little oil on a tava or griddle.
Serve with a dollop of home made ghee or pickle.Methi Paratha


It’s lovely to have great friends, friends who have been with you through your life, since your kinder garden times or even since your school days.

We have seen the ups and downs in each others lives, we have lived those great and not so great moments and hence it has become a long term friendship where we go beyond being good friends.

Each one of us yearns for such a magical relationship which has lasted the taste of time.

There comes a time when there is lot of familiarity in the relationship and you know what the other person thinks or what the other person is going to say. This is when you have to be really very careful, this is the time when you start taking the other person for granted.

Over the years each person develops his own individuality, he is his own person with his own firm beliefs and ideas and hence when someone close to them tries to teach him things which although may be for the persons own good may not be looked at in the same way.

I have seen many relationships strain or break because they take each other for granted.

Always keep this in mind that we should give advice only when asked for and also to respect the other persons individuality and that how much ever you feel that you are doing something that is good for the other person , it might not be necessarily what your friend wants.

HOMEMAKING …when family comes visiting

Last week was pretty busy .. I should say really very busy with family i.e my brother who is on the project to the US was visiting .. He is with me on and off as he has other places to visit and stay too..
My main focus is normally on food , it always happens when someone comes visiting the first thing that we start planning is the menu for them and then the preparation starts a couple of days before they came.. like here in India we have to go to the fish market and get fresh fish and as we are from the coastal region fish is the main part of our menu.
Here the fish that is purchased is not cleaned, it just comes from the fish mongers we have to cut and clean it before we consume it so it almost takes at least a couple of hours for the whole process.
My brother and family where with us for three day over the weekend and will be coming this week too. The menu was totally fishy with lots of fried fish, 2 types of vegetables with each meal , roti , dal , rice and salad..
Let me share with you a typical menu on Saturday for lunch.

king fish fry
Dal with tomato
Brinjal and potato dry vegetable with prawns
french beans and peas vegetable
boiled corn with chat masala
and also made kokum (a sour fruit found in Goa) kadi which can be had as a appetizer.

Sunday we had lunch at a chinese place while dinner was at home
for dinner my brother did not want me to make anything elaborate
so I made
ALSANDE TONAK (goan black eyed peas) masala with coconut gravy
Rice with curds

Breakfast time….made Poha (beaten rice with potatoes) on Saturday and made Upma (spicy semolina) on Sunday.

Had made besan or chick pea flour ladoos as a snack for my little niece a couple of days in advance.
I have put this menu up for those who are not Indians and would like to know what it is like to have guests in an Indian house .. where food is always given priority over other things.


I have posted about my morning me time before so here is my morning tea in a new cup and plate.. I love the colour combination of lavender with brinjal purple for the plate.They are not a set but I made them into one.

This is what you should look out for ” the magic of everyday “the pleasure you find in the everyday , little things that seem so insignificant as you just pick up a cup and have your morning or evening tea and just finish off .. off course all of you will not be as interesting in the type of cups or other kitchen crockery used but I am sure when you have a coffee or tea you have it because you love the beverage so why not enjoy every bit of it.. try to make time in the morning for this little act of tea /coffee drinking and see the magic it brings into your day.

Morning time is normally very hurried and rushed but these 5 minutes that you spend with yourself , is a feel good factor in your day. TRY IT TRUST ME.

This is what I had for breakfast .. Muesli in  a plain white bowl but to make it look pretty I used a polka dot plate, which is not necessary but never the less made my breakfast look a little special for me..

How did you spend your morning today..?

what did you have ?? Pls write to me it will be great hearing from you.






If you have read my earlier posts you will know that I love the rains.. This is one season that makes me awake and makes me feel at peace with myself.

I get great pleasure in doing things that I would normally not feel like doing when its hot and humid inside and outside.

Yesterday was one such day.. It was pouring outside and when the weather is such and the lights in the house is naturally low and cozy , I have my urges to do something creative.

This is how it looks from outside my sons room which is also our computer room and so when he is out I get the computer all to myself and that’s how  it was yesterday.



There is a lovely garden just next to my apartment complex , and I will say that’s the only patch of greenery that we see around in our city , which is a concrete jungle with highrise buildings everywhere.

Can you see the hills further away in the 1st picture , well they were the reason we chose this flat.They are very very far but just looking at them makes me happy.

In such a weather you know what I love to do.. I love to do something creative…So yesterday I got out all my scrap-booking supplies and my afternoon was well spent cutting and sticking the various lovely pictures I have downloaded for my  SIMPLE PLEASURES  scrapbook






My idea of a morning cuppa

something to read on my ipad and one book and my morning cup of tea with milk

If I miss out on this daily routine , I feel that the morning is incomplete, I need to have this little time for myself before I start my day.It rejuvenates me and gets me ready for the day.

What is your idea of a perfect me time and when do you get it??